Category: Stress

5 Tips To Get Past Your Fears of Failure!

By: Christina Jay

Everyone can relate to the fear of failure at some point in his or her life. When a positive trait like achievement becomes too strong in someone’s life, its on the way to becoming a major handicap. Often time’s we view failure as more of a bigger story we tell ourselves “ I am not good enough” “ I will never become a successful entrepreneur” “My ex spouse was right I’ll never make it on my own-I am a loser” However, we have to remind ourselves it is just that-a story. We have to reframe our minds and turn failures as something positive and something we can learn from. It’s important to not turn to external activities (drinking, drugs, eating etc ) to avoid your fear of failure and instead create more positive ways to deal with it.

Here are 5 Tools to Get Past Your Fears of Failure:

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Do Happy Lawyers Exist? 4 Tips On How To “Rest Your Case”

By Natasha Sharma

Although I’m deeply hooked on “How To Get Away With Murder” right now, one of my favourite television shows of all time is ‘Frasier.’ And one of the most memorable lines from the show was quite possibly from the episode where the character of Niles says to Frasier: “I hate lawyers but they make wonderful patients: They have excellent health insurance and they never get better.”

For a profession that has yielded some of the greatest and most inspirational leaders of our time – from Mahatma Gandhi to Barak Obama – the practice of law has a reputation as being, well, uninspiring. At least to those behind the casebooks. Consider the research: In a study of over 100 occupations, lawyers lead the United States with the highest prevalence of depression. Research has also indicated that the profession has one of the highest rates of suicide, and up to 20% of lawyers in the US struggle with alcoholism or another form of substance abuse. So do happy lawyers exist? Or are they an urban myth, like free parking spaces?

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5 Quick Tips to Boost Your Mood

By Natasha Sharma

As the summer starts drawing to its inevitable close, many people find themselves feeling a little glum. And who can blame them? There’s something about warm wind and long, lazy days in the sun that seem to make time slow down. And for a few short months, it seems we all gain the ability to mentally stand still for a moment. We stop fretting over the past, and worrying about the future. We get outside more, we see friends and family more, and there are endless opportunities for pure, unadulterated fun! For a change, we can be light, carefree, and almost entirely in the present. Whatever gets you down here and there, it’s worth noting that everyone feels a little ‘blue’ at times. In moderation and when proportionate, it’s as natural a part of the human condition as almost any other emotion. Slight downturns in mood usually pass within 1 or 2 days, and this reminder in and of itself is often helpful. In those moments where we could use more of a pick me up, here are some tips for a booster shot to the old amygdala:

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The 4 Pillars of LIFE: What we can ALL do to promote our own Mental Health

By Natasha Sharma

In my clinical practice as a Psychotherapist, I’ve worked with many individuals and families of all ages, ranging from issues as harrowing as psychological trauma in small children to those as commonplace as conflict in the workplace. Over the years I’ve come to realize that a problem is a problem, relative to the unique context of a person’s life and individual phenomenology. Which is to say that they exist – or do not exist – based on our circumstances and subjective experience of life.

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Top 3 Causes Of Holiday Stress

By Natasha Sharma

Back when I was a psychology grad student at Johns Hopkins, I took a class with a special focus on anxiety. Somewhere in the textbook for this course, there was a rank ordered list of stressful life events that could potentially lead to psychological distress, fittingly called a “stress scale”. As I scanned the list, I saw many of the usual suspects: divorce, dismissal from work, taking on a major mortgage or foreclosure of a house. Then my eyes flashed across a word I wasn’t expecting: Christmas. Incidentally, it ranked as more stressful a life event than experiencing a minor legal infraction! At first, the foolish student in me laughed, but the more I thought about it the more it made sense.

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Why We Need To Be Able To Feel Afraid

By Natasha Sharma

The Toronto Eaton Centre – one of the city’s busiest shopping destinations – has reopened their doors this morning following the shooting incident that took place in the shopping centre food court Saturday evening of this past weekend, which killed one individual and wounded several others. In the after-math of such a terrible event, it would seem natural to feel apprehensive with respect to heading back into the very place that it occurred. Some might feel downright afraid and decide not to go back at all. But here’s why you should.

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