Category: Relationships

Signs You Have an Addiction Problem

About one in 10 Americans over the age of 12 struggle with drug or alcohol addiction. Out of those 23.5 million people, only 11 percent will get treatment. One of the primary reasons that such a low percentage of addicts get the help they need is that they (or their loved ones) don’t recognize the severity of their problem.

It’s also common for business professionals or executives who struggle with substance abuse to put off seeking help because they’re afraid of how it will affect their work life. If that’s you, know that there are ways to overcome addiction without destroying your career. Here are some tips for recognizing when you have a problem and how to conquer it.

 

Signs of a Problem

There are some signs to look for if you think you or a loved one has a substance abuse problem. Some of the most obvious ones are physical, such as bloodshot or glazed eyes, dilated pupils, or extreme changes in weight. Many drug users suffer from malnutrition, which can lead to a general look of emaciation. Also, observe behavioural changes: Are you having trouble focusing and thinking coherently? Have normally menial tasks become more difficult to accomplish? Are you more irritable, unpredictable, or depressed than you used to be?

One of the worst parts of substance abuse is how it can affect your relationships. Have your loved ones noticed you acting differently? When you have a problem, it often reveals itself to your family members and friends before it becomes clear to you. If someone who knows you well — and especially if it’s more than one person — approaches you with concern, it can be tempting to brush them off. But it could also be a sign that you do indeed have a problem.

 

Consequences of Not Getting Help

If you keep pushing off the need to get help, it can lead to devastating consequences, from DUIs, drug possession charges, and job loss to shattered relationships, overdose, and suicide. Then there are the long-term physiological consequences. If your drug or alcohol addiction persists for long enough, you can suffer catastrophic damage to your heart, kidneys, liver, and/or lungs. Persistent substance abuse also alters your brain chemistry over time and can cause brain damage, cognitive difficulties, and other severe mental health issues.

 

The Truth About Rehab

If you think you need help overcoming a problem, you definitely shouldn’t let any stigmas of rehab keep you from taking that first step to recovery. The truth is that you are more likely to keep your job if you enter rehab, and you may even get a better job after completing a good program. Also, keeping your job and continuing your climb up the corporate ladder can motivate you to stay clean after your program is complete. It’s a cycle that can work for you—save your life, even. Just make sure that you get going the right way in the cycle.

There are also professional-focused recovery centres all across the United States that are specifically tailored to addicts who need to maintain a work presence. This includes both inpatient and outpatient programs, and most of them include talk therapy, peer support groups, and/or individual counselling.

There’s no better time than now to take your first step to recovery. Look for the physical, behavioural, and relational signs that you may have a problem. Consider all the devastating consequences that addiction can bring to you and the people closest to you. Don’t let the stigmas of rehab hold you back. Finally, do some research on the various treatment centres that cater to business professionals and executives. Remember: the time to get better is now.

Written by: Eva Benoit

 

Eva Benoit left her job as an office manager to pursue being a life, career, and overall wellness coach. She specializes in helping professionals with stress and anxiety, but welcomes working with people from all walks of life. She works with her clients to discover and explore avenues that will bring them balance, peace, and improved overall well-being that can last a lifetime. Her website is evabenoit.com and she is author of the upcoming book, The 30-Day Plan for Ending Bad Habits and Improving Overall Health.

 

The Top 4 Signs He Will Never Commit

By Nick Bastion / Vixen Daily

I talk to a lot of women who feel trapped in their relationships – waiting for a man to commit and not knowing if he ever will.

It’s a really uneasy and nerve-wracking place to be – because you don’t want to feel like you’re wasting your time with him, but you also feel uneasy… is he EVER going to commit to you?

That’s why I’ve come up with my top 4 signs that a guy isn’t going to commit. If a guy is giving you more than 2 or 3 of these signs – it probably means he’s not that serious about the relationship.

So without any further ado, here are the 4 signs he will never commit:

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By Natasha Sharma

Although I’m deeply hooked on “How To Get Away With Murder” right now, one of my favourite television shows of all time is ‘Frasier.’ And one of the most memorable lines from the show was quite possibly from the episode where the character of Niles says to Frasier: “I hate lawyers but they make wonderful patients: They have excellent health insurance and they never get better.”

For a profession that has yielded some of the greatest and most inspirational leaders of our time – from Mahatma Gandhi to Barak Obama – the practice of law has a reputation as being, well, uninspiring. At least to those behind the casebooks. Consider the research: In a study of over 100 occupations, lawyers lead the United States with the highest prevalence of depression. Research has also indicated that the profession has one of the highest rates of suicide, and up to 20% of lawyers in the US struggle with alcoholism or another form of substance abuse. So do happy lawyers exist? Or are they an urban myth, like free parking spaces?

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By Natasha Sharma

Oh to be in love. Is there really anything quite like it?

The slow cartwheels that turn over in your stomach every time you think of the other person, the slight hop and a skip in your step, the giddy anticipation at the thought of seeing them again, and how everything in the world around you suddenly just seems…better!

The trouble with love, as the saying goes, is that is can also render us temporarily – but powerfully – blind. At least cognitively speaking. There’s a reason somebody coined the phrase “love is a form of socially acceptable insanity.”

The intensity of biological factors and psychological emotions in the beginnings of a new relationship can weaken our judgment. In short, this happens so that we can see what we want to – and our relationship needs can be filled.

While it’s true that love may be both a feeling and an action, trust me on this: When it comes to letting others know whether or not we truly love them, it’s what we do over what we say that matters.

At the end of the day, there are some basic things that form the foundation of all healthy and loving relationships. Here are the top 6 ways for how to know if a person truly loves you:

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The Top Nine Secrets To Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

By Nick Bastion / Vixen Daily

You want to make a long distance relationship work?

You’d better be willing to put in the effort.

Long distance relationships are exactly like normal relationships in every way – except the difficulty level is ratcheted up like one million times.

And it’s WAY easier to misunderstand each other.

And if you have any doubts about the relationship, they become totally magnified.

And temptation becomes much scarier and more in your face than ever.

OK, so maybe it’s not quite like a normal relationship.

But if you know what to do – you can make your long distance relationship work.

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By Natasha Sharma

The answer to this question of course is ‘No.’ Nevertheless the percentage of people diagnosed and dealing with a mental illness increases with each passing year. Certainly over the years, due to advances in society and technology, we have become more aware of the biological and psychological markers of mental illness, and more willing to recognize it. Another reason put forth to explain the rise of mental illness is the idea that we currently live “in more difficult times” than previously. I don’t agree with this. The reality is we now live in arguably the easiest times in the course of human history, and we seem to have lost some of our “toughness.” But I’ll save that last point for another article. Sure, we have our fair share of problems (faster pace of life, career burnout, environmental concerns), but I wouldn’t trade these problems in for the ones our ancestors had (such as world war and widespread disease) any time soon. And we are no more pre-disposed to mental health issues now than we were then. So what is really going on here? Are we all getting sicker? Or do we simply need to understand the difference between a mental illness and a normal response to the experience of life? I think it’s the latter.

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By Natasha Sharma

How many times in the last hour have you checked in with any Social Media platform on which you have a profile? Once? Twice? More than 10?? Studies show that people between the ages of 18 and 64 currently spend an average of about 3 hours per day on Social Media sites. That’s a little over 11 minutes each hour, figuring a 16-hour day. That works out to an average of about a minute for every 5 minutes. And that equals almost 20% of our waking lives! If we are going to dedicate that much of our precious time to something, it would be wise to understand and evaluate the quality of our experience.

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By Natasha Sharma

Marriage is a (hopefully) long and deeply fulfilling relationship that many of us choose to embark on. But a good marriage – indeed a great one – is not all strawberries with cream. In my practice, I often work with couples in long-term relationships, and one of the key points I am always emphasizing is that marriage is a journey, consisting of times when we feel incredibly connected . . . and other times when we feel less so.

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Be Good. Feel Great.

By Natasha Sharma

Some years ago – actually it was quite awhile back – I spent a day working as a volunteer at a local Toronto mission. My mission: To assist under-privileged people and families with their collection of free groceries and toys for the holiday season. I am sure on some level I had wondered if doing this would make me feel as though I had helped someone or some people in a small way. However I walked away that day feeling a bit confused.

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