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Signs You Have an Addiction Problem

About one in 10 Americans over the age of 12 struggle with drug or alcohol addiction. Out of those 23.5 million people, only 11 percent will get treatment. One of the primary reasons that such a low percentage of addicts get the help they need is that they (or their loved ones) don’t recognize the severity of their problem.

It’s also common for business professionals or executives who struggle with substance abuse to put off seeking help because they’re afraid of how it will affect their work life. If that’s you, know that there are ways to overcome addiction without destroying your career. Here are some tips for recognizing when you have a problem and how to conquer it.


Signs of a Problem

There are some signs to look for if you think you or a loved one has a substance abuse problem. Some of the most obvious ones are physical, such as bloodshot or glazed eyes, dilated pupils, or extreme changes in weight. Many drug users suffer from malnutrition, which can lead to a general look of emaciation. Also, observe behavioural changes: Are you having trouble focusing and thinking coherently? Have normally menial tasks become more difficult to accomplish? Are you more irritable, unpredictable, or depressed than you used to be?

One of the worst parts of substance abuse is how it can affect your relationships. Have your loved ones noticed you acting differently? When you have a problem, it often reveals itself to your family members and friends before it becomes clear to you. If someone who knows you well — and especially if it’s more than one person — approaches you with concern, it can be tempting to brush them off. But it could also be a sign that you do indeed have a problem.


Consequences of Not Getting Help

If you keep pushing off the need to get help, it can lead to devastating consequences, from DUIs, drug possession charges, and job loss to shattered relationships, overdose, and suicide. Then there are the long-term physiological consequences. If your drug or alcohol addiction persists for long enough, you can suffer catastrophic damage to your heart, kidneys, liver, and/or lungs. Persistent substance abuse also alters your brain chemistry over time and can cause brain damage, cognitive difficulties, and other severe mental health issues.


The Truth About Rehab

If you think you need help overcoming a problem, you definitely shouldn’t let any stigmas of rehab keep you from taking that first step to recovery. The truth is that you are more likely to keep your job if you enter rehab, and you may even get a better job after completing a good program. Also, keeping your job and continuing your climb up the corporate ladder can motivate you to stay clean after your program is complete. It’s a cycle that can work for you—save your life, even. Just make sure that you get going the right way in the cycle.

There are also professional-focused recovery centres all across the United States that are specifically tailored to addicts who need to maintain a work presence. This includes both inpatient and outpatient programs, and most of them include talk therapy, peer support groups, and/or individual counselling.

There’s no better time than now to take your first step to recovery. Look for the physical, behavioural, and relational signs that you may have a problem. Consider all the devastating consequences that addiction can bring to you and the people closest to you. Don’t let the stigmas of rehab hold you back. Finally, do some research on the various treatment centres that cater to business professionals and executives. Remember: the time to get better is now.

Written by: Eva Benoit


Eva Benoit left her job as an office manager to pursue being a life, career, and overall wellness coach. She specializes in helping professionals with stress and anxiety, but welcomes working with people from all walks of life. She works with her clients to discover and explore avenues that will bring them balance, peace, and improved overall well-being that can last a lifetime. Her website is and she is author of the upcoming book, The 30-Day Plan for Ending Bad Habits and Improving Overall Health.


What Happens in Your Mind When You’re Having a Panic Attack

Panic attacks are exceedingly common. It’s defined as a sudden feeling of intense fear with no apparent cause that can happen at any time. Some people experience the attacks once or twice in the lifetime, but some might experience them more often whenever in situations where they feel exposed or under pressure occurs.

Panic attacks happen in unexpected situations and are highly unpredictable. The whole system of your body and brain becomes active and you experience a lot of emotional surges when you’re panicked. You may experience a sickening feeling in your stomach and throat, dizziness, pupil dilation and blur vision; all these symptoms sums up what a panic attack feels like. The sufferer may feel faint or think that they’re about to die.

Panic attacks are different from anxiety attacks. A panic attack might go on for 10 minutes or a little longer, instead, the anxiety attack can stay for days and weeks. Read on to find out what is really happening to your mind when a panic attack hits:

Parts of Brain Become Hyperactive

The amygdala resides in the middle of the brain, and is the part of the brain which pertains to the aggressive emotions and prepares the body to deal with the fear and danger. This particular part of the brain becomes unnecessarily and highly stimulated as the body enters into defense mode. The overly active defense mechanism perceives the threat as more perilous than it actually is. This sets on the anxiety and panic.

Brain Freeze Up

When you’re in an alarming situation, you’ll probably need to think before you proceed. But if you don’t think fast enough, the hormonal surge will hit you like a hammer, leaving you in a panic. This proves that panic attacks are quicker than the pace of thought. Panic attacks are controlled by the unconscious mind. So, this explains that panic attacks are originated from the unconscious part of the mind.

Nervous System Failure

Parasympathetic nervous system is responsible to relax the body. When a panic attack arrives, this system becomes confused and incapable to calm down the body. A breakdown of the parasympathetic nervous system lets the sympathetic nervous system take over. The sympathetic nervous system releases energy preparing the body for action and results in a panic attack.

The Unconscious Mind Never Forgets

The mind quickly learns the situation in which the panic attack has happened. The hurtful memory imprinted on the mind can trigger the panic response in the particular situation or environment. The same mechanism causes us to remember the old memories when we smell a particular odor or hear a song.

The Mind Imagines Horrible Things

When one does experience a panic attack; the mind worries about a lot of frightening situations that hasn’t happened yet. The sufferer feels suffocated, dizzy as if they’re going to get faint, or even die. It feels like you’re losing control. The body becomes weak and your mind believes that you will fall down any minute. You believe that you can’t cope. The fact is less painful though, that a panic attack won’t hurt you, and you won’t die.

The State of Indecisiveness

A panic attack lets your emotions drive you and shuts your thinking process. The general belief about a panic attack is it is absolutely irrational. The primitive part of the brain that initiates the panic response isn’t meant to deal with the rational emotions. This is quite the reason why people under a panic attack may feel unable to make a decision.


The emotions seize our rational powers in a vulnerable moment of panic. Don’t let that moment define you for your whole life. The trick is; desensitize your upsetting memories and try to stay non-emotional in most of the situations you seem to don’t like. And despite the whole awkwardness, the good news is that the panic attack doesn’t last long. This is merely a defensive response which will end soon. Do you or someone you know suffer from panic attacks? If you find you’re struggling, it’s a good idea to seek professional help.

Janice Killey
Janice has a wealth of experience and training. She holds a Diploma of Education, Bachelor of Arts (Psychology), Master of Arts (Counselling), Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy (ASH) and is a Registered Psychologist at Psychologists Southern Sydney. She’s also a member of the Australian Psychological Society.

Online Counselling: Is It Safe? Everything You Want to Know About Skype Therapy

It’s official: We are living in the digital age. Every day more of the products and services we love and need are moving to online platforms, and purchasing them and consuming them is fast becoming the norm. There was a time when people would never consider something as private and important as conducting banking and paying their bills online. These days, the idea of a paperback “account book” seems positively prehistoric. From banking to meeting a life partner online, it’s all become acceptable and indeed in many cases, the preferred option. Including counselling.

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Parenting Means Partnership: A New Approach for How To Potty Train Your Toddler

Natasha Sharma is a personal development and happiness expert, and author of internationally featured “The Kindness Journal,”  a guided interactive journal for cultivating a happier and more positive life.

I’m a mom. Of two very sweet boys. The second who joined us a mere three months ago! Having been a member of the MOB (mom of boys) squad for some time now, I’m already well versed in the nuances that come with changing baby boy diapers: The moving aside of the ‘bits and pieces’, the always-when-you’re-not-expecting-it pee pee spray, and have I just been living in a house of boys for too long or does their ‘business’ really smell worse than girls?!

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What’s Up With The Mom Shaming?

By: Natasha Sharma

I have the good fortune of being a part time stay-at-home-mom, so my 2-year old son and I occasionally used to go to a public drop-in center in our neighborhood. The other attendees varied: Mostly home daycare providers, some moms, the odd grandparent, and even a rare dad sighting here and there! On one of our visits, a staff member suddenly pulled me aside. Apparently, another woman had been complaining – to staff and any other person who would listen – about my giving my son a snack at 11:30 am because all the other kids eat a snack at 10:30 am. My son and I would usually show up at 11.

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What Is A Psychoeducational Assessment? 16 Signs Your Child May Need One

By Natasha Sharma

When a child grapples with behaviour and/or learning issues, it can be a challenge not only for the child but also for parents and teachers. To make things more complicated, children can struggle in one specific area of learning or subject area, or they may present with difficulties in general with their learning or behaviour. This can make things confusing to parents and teachers, and an assessment is often recommended to parents. So what is a Psychoeducational Assessment? And when does your child need one?

If a child struggles at school or in an area of learning, it doesn’t mean that the child necessarily has a learning disorder or other developmental issue. Indeed, it’s been widely observed that sleep deprivation almost perfectly mimics the symptoms of ADHD. Therefore just because a child or student has challenges with focus, concentration, and holding attention doesn’t mean that they have ADHD.

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The Top 4 Signs He Will Never Commit

By Nick Bastion / Vixen Daily

I talk to a lot of women who feel trapped in their relationships – waiting for a man to commit and not knowing if he ever will.

It’s a really uneasy and nerve-wracking place to be – because you don’t want to feel like you’re wasting your time with him, but you also feel uneasy… is he EVER going to commit to you?

That’s why I’ve come up with my top 4 signs that a guy isn’t going to commit. If a guy is giving you more than 2 or 3 of these signs – it probably means he’s not that serious about the relationship.

So without any further ado, here are the 4 signs he will never commit:

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5 Tips To Get Past Your Fears of Failure!

By: Christina Jay

Everyone can relate to the fear of failure at some point in his or her life. When a positive trait like achievement becomes too strong in someone’s life, its on the way to becoming a major handicap. Often time’s we view failure as more of a bigger story we tell ourselves “ I am not good enough” “ I will never become a successful entrepreneur” “My ex spouse was right I’ll never make it on my own-I am a loser” However, we have to remind ourselves it is just that-a story. We have to reframe our minds and turn failures as something positive and something we can learn from. It’s important to not turn to external activities (drinking, drugs, eating etc ) to avoid your fear of failure and instead create more positive ways to deal with it.

Here are 5 Tools to Get Past Your Fears of Failure:

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Do Happy Lawyers Exist? 4 Tips On How To “Rest Your Case”

By Natasha Sharma

Although I’m deeply hooked on “How To Get Away With Murder” right now, one of my favourite television shows of all time is ‘Frasier.’ And one of the most memorable lines from the show was quite possibly from the episode where the character of Niles says to Frasier: “I hate lawyers but they make wonderful patients: They have excellent health insurance and they never get better.”

For a profession that has yielded some of the greatest and most inspirational leaders of our time – from Mahatma Gandhi to Barak Obama – the practice of law has a reputation as being, well, uninspiring. At least to those behind the casebooks. Consider the research: In a study of over 100 occupations, lawyers lead the United States with the highest prevalence of depression. Research has also indicated that the profession has one of the highest rates of suicide, and up to 20% of lawyers in the US struggle with alcoholism or another form of substance abuse. So do happy lawyers exist? Or are they an urban myth, like free parking spaces?

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How To Know If A Person Truly Loves You: The Top 6 Ways

By Natasha Sharma

Oh to be in love. Is there really anything quite like it?

The slow cartwheels that turn over in your stomach every time you think of the other person, the slight hop and a skip in your step, the giddy anticipation at the thought of seeing them again, and how everything in the world around you suddenly just seems…better!

The trouble with love, as the saying goes, is that is can also render us temporarily – but powerfully – blind. At least cognitively speaking. There’s a reason somebody coined the phrase “love is a form of socially acceptable insanity.”

The intensity of biological factors and psychological emotions in the beginnings of a new relationship can weaken our judgment. In short, this happens so that we can see what we want to – and our relationship needs can be filled.

While it’s true that love may be both a feeling and an action, trust me on this: When it comes to letting others know whether or not we truly love them, it’s what we do over what we say that matters.

At the end of the day, there are some basic things that form the foundation of all healthy and loving relationships. Here are the top 6 ways for how to know if a person truly loves you:

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